We’ve ALL Been in Dark Places…

Dark Places…

So what’s that old saying, when life gives you lemons, make lemonade? Well, that’s good for small problems, don’t get me wrong. But sometimes, your shit  is BIG.  REALLY big.   Really dark, DARK places…
“If you saw the size of the blessing coming, you would understand the magnitude of the battle you are fighting”
Maybe it’s a breakup of a really long relationship.  Or maybe it’s the loss of a friend.  Maybe it’s a life changing illness. Guys, it happens every day, and it’s not until it happens that it rocks you to your freaking core. I just went through this 3 weeks ago. Dude, I thought my life was over.  Hell, I thought my husband’s life was over. I felt like I was drowning in overwhelm.
But then, I stumbled on a saying that changed my perspective. At that point, you’re grasping at straws for somebody to give you some words of wisdom. You have to pull something from what you’re told , anything to help make sense of what you’re going through.  That saying for me was:  “When you’re finding yourself in a dark place, you may feel that you’re being buried,  but you’ve really actually only been planted.”
 Think about that for a minute. Whatever just happened to you that rocked your world,  those dark places, whatever it was that made you think everything was ending,  you need to create it into a new beginning. A new phase of your life. What am I always telling you? That change is uncomfortable. It’s unfamiliar, so of course it makes us uncomfortable. We don’t know what the hell is going to happen next. Hell, we don’t know what the hell is happening right now! We don’t see any way, but there is a way. And if there isn’t a way, either you make a way, or there’s a way to deal. There’s a workaround. The question is, are you ready to be part of it?
Are you in a dark place?
Dark Places…
Listen, it’s not like you have a choice. You’ve been dealt the cards you’ve been dealt, now you need to deal with it. Just remember,  you think you’ve been buried, but you’ve been planted.  So now you need to dig your heels in, be the roots, and you need to grow.  You need to expand your thought process and say, “Okay, how do I deal with this?”   How do I adapt and overcome?
 Let’s be honest here, do you really have a choice?  Yeah, okay, you can curl up in a fetal position and suck your thumb and rock back and forth for awhile, but eventually you have to get up to go pee.  Life kicks in.  You still have a life to live.  Can you create change, or help someone else who may be going through the same thing that you just went through?  Maybe be a comfort to them?
Life Experiences sometimes suck.  A lot.  But maybe you were meant to be the help for someone else.  You need to keep that in mind.  Just remember, sometimes in the waves of change, that is when we truly find our direction.  tThink about that.  And just remember, let your smile change the world,  but don’t ever, EVER,  let the world change your smile.

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